Coming soon....

After my class today...you will hear the gist.

~ELNG

Boring...

Sorry guys, not much gist for you all because I've been studying for a test which I had today . So I was inside ALL WEEKEND!!!! I know...hard to believe that this party girl didn't go out. Wait...let me not lie, I am not a party girl, so it's typical that I didn't go out lol. But my birthday is this week!!! So expect that to change this weekend.


Actually, I do have a little story to tell. So an ex-boyfriend of mine came down to my city for a party. But get this...this is how I knew....

One of his friends sent me a message, saying that he and some friends were going to be coming down and he wanted people to hang out with. I asked him if I knew any of these friends, and he said no. So I figured that my ex-bf wouldn't be coming, though not to lie...thought it kind of weird that his friend wanted to hang out because I had never seen him, only talked to him on the phone. But I was up for it, don't mind hanging out with people.

So Saturday night comes, his friend calls and I ignore it because I'm studying for a test and I really don't feel like hanging out. My grades are more important lol. So yeah, ignored those calls, but about five calls later, I finally decide to answer it. But mind you that I never stored his number in my phone, so I recognized it by the area code. So I pick up the phone...it was my ex-bf (who I had not seen in 1+ years). He apparently came in the car with his friend who wanted to see me (and his friend just didn't tell me). Probably because he knew that I could have told him to not bother coming. My ex-bf will not leave me alone...calling my phone (after soo long) asking me when I am going to break up with my boyfriend, telling me that he loves me, that he can't get over me, and that he can't be with anyone else, that I only act this way because I know he will always be there for me, that we were meant to get married...and everything under the sun. I am NOT...let me repeat that...NOT NOT NOT NOT will NEVER be interested in going out with him, or taking anything further than it is now.

I don't mind seeing him, but when he wants to see me, he wants to kiss and stuff...and he just understand that I don't want to. I'm like..."I have a boyfriend" and he says that he doesn't care, that he still loves me, that he thinks my boyfriend and I are just a fling and that one day I will come to my senses. He said that he thinks I'm smart enough to realize that one day I will want a Nigerian man so we can raise Nigerian kids...whatever! No matter who I marry, my kids will be Nigerian right (maybe...at least half)?

So yeah, he came by my apartment around 3:00AM in the morning (he had just come from a party...which I am now glad that I did not attend)...I know...bad idea. But I no matter how I feel, I had not seen him in over a year. And he lives two hours away, I don't want to be known as so cold-hearted that I would not see him when he came around. Yeah...he's still the same old same old. Did nothing with him, and for that he calls me mean. Personally, I don't care. I just don't understand how he is so blind to think the way that he does. Anyways...let me not start ranting.

It was my birthday this week! I will post on Saturday to let you all know how it went. By the way...blogger will probably post this by the date when I started...but actually I am posting this Friday morning. Sorry oh...I don't always have internet access for class reasons.

~ELNG

Fourth of July!!!

Happy Fourth of July everyone!!! Well...to those that celebrate it lol. Mine was alright, I'm at school for the summer, so not much that I can actually do. A friend had a picnic yesterday though, so I went over to her apartment to celebrate. I was probably there for about two hours! It was fun, a lot of bugs though.

Then after that, went out to this club...which was soo fun!! I have not been to a club in ages (or any kind of club for that matter)! The deal pretty much is that if my boyfriend doesn't go out, I pretty much don't go out. It's not written or spoken or anything, I just generally feel like I have no point going to a club if he does not come. I find it hard to dance with other guys.

But yeah, so was at the club for probably about two hours, and it was just insane. Maybe my not going out for a while has caused me to forget what to expect. But left and right guys kept asking for my number. Okay...not left and right, so it was like five guys. But I haven't gotten that kind of attention in a while lol. It was like:


The next night (Saturday night...don't mind blogger, I started typing this Saturday morning), I went out to an African club with this friend of mine who kind of likes me. Yeah...I don't know. I have really resigned myself to the fact that I will never have males who really just want to be friends and nothing more. But yeah, the party was fun, it was free drinks and free entry! Got to hear some great African tracks from Naija to Kenya and even some Caribbean stuff!

As for why I say I will never have any males that will be just friends...maybe that's just an exaggeration. I believe that I may get some within the next five-ten years? But as for now...doesn't happen. That story will be saved for another day!

See ya ♥

Frustrated

Oh wow...I can't believe people are still reading this! After like a year! Thanks Jaybabe! You've been there with me since day one :-)

So school has been getting to me...badly. I declared my major in psychology a few months back...and needless to say my parents are upset. It all came out when I went to the dentist a two months ago...

Dentist: So what are you studying in school?
ELNG: Well I am actually majoring in psychology
Mom of ELNG: WHAT?!?! *stares in shock*
ELNG: But I am still going to medical school
Mom of ELNG: She wants to become a medical doctor (still probably in shock)
Dentist: Well...that's good

So yeah...I got a lecture that night from my parents because they were upset with my choice of major. Granted I should have told them what my major was when I declared it, but I was in a rush, and really...it made sense since I had so many psychology courses. In order to major in psychology...or even (double) major in biology , I would have had to stay in school longer.

Last night again...my parents talked to me about how it was such a stupid decision to major in psychology. And that now I have to work extra hard to get into a medical school because if I don't get into medical school then I have nothing to fall back on...etc. Then had to hear the same thing from my mother as well the very next day.

What is it with this obsession that Nigerian families have to have a doctor in them? Should I become a doctor just because my mom feels that we "have to have at least one or two doctors in the family?" That by default makes me have to becomes a doctor. If I have worries, I want real answers. I want them to sit and talk to me and tell me legitimate reasons, like "you were always interested in helping people," or "remember the time when such and such happened, and how it made you want to etc?"
Something like that. Don't say that we need one or two doctors in the family...should that be reason enough for me to go?

Now before anyone says anything...I know they want the best for me...but shouldn't happiness fall in there somewhere as well?

Whatever...this video makes me feel better. Take care everyone!

I'm BACK!!!!

Hey everyone!

Sorry that I kept you all waiting for so long...I feel bad because I had that new post sitting in cyberspace for the past seven months or so? Hmmm... well, it's been bad. I've had a busy year. And I'm taking classes this summer...but I will TRY TRY TRY to have timely posts from now on. Let's see how this goes.

But I really really missed you guys, seriously. It's just my need to get into medical school has kept me away :-(

-ELNG

The Day My Roommate Went too Far....

So later that day I talked to my boyfriend and I just told him that I didn't like that he was being responsive to my roommate like that. "She's a flirt by nature, but you need to be better at handling that," I said. So then he said that I should have told him that she's a flirt. I just said that he can't have me around him all the time, telling him who is a flirt. He's just going to have to know these things on his own. So we talked about this outside in the soccer stadium at our school at night...so it was a nice atmosphere. And he was very good at listening to my concern, and addressed them all, so I can't fault him. He is a good boyfriend all and all.


So in one of the later weeks, my boyfriend and I had planned to hang out that Saturday night, but nothing had been finalized. So until he called to say for sure that we would be hanging out, I would be going to a party with some friends. I told my friend Nana that I had no clue what I could wear, because I have no clubbing clothes. So we were going upstairs to her room to look for clothes to wear. She has this gorgeous brown dress that she wore to a party before, and I wanted to wear that dress. So I took it out of the closet and tried it on. Well...the difference between her and I is that I have a much larger bra size. The brown dress was the kind of dress you don't wear with a bra (it was a halter) and it was just not working with me.

So perhaps my roommate got jealous or something...but then she just went off on me. Told me to take the dress off, and started to tell me that I was a bad girlfriend. That if my boyfriend was her boyfriend she would hang out with him every single day and blah blah blah. And I was just thinking where does this girl get off telling me all of these things when:

1.) She didn't know I had a boyfriend until less than a month before
2.) She doesn't have a boyfriend and can't maintain a relationship with any guy because she flirts around A LOT!

Later my boyfriend and I decided to hang out, and she was like "wrap it up," make sure you use a condom etc. That was the final straw. Where does this girl get off insinuating what I do in my relationships? It's not even any of her business because we are NOWHERE near best friends. But anyways...long story short. I was upset, and my roommates said she was a 'female dog' the entire night. She got upset when another friend of mine wanted to come in her car, so they decided to take that girl's car, and my roommate of course invited herself into the car (since she was no longer driving). My roommate wanted to stay, but everyone else didn't like the party. So the whole time, my roommate kept saying that if she knew everyone was going to be like that then she would have taken her car. And the girl that drove was about to slap her because she never asked my roommate to come in her car.

I hope that all made sense....

So I Lied....

School sucks, absolutely swamped with work once more. Papers, and midterms day after day after day. So....you guys will have to wait until the first week of October to hear the rest, unless I take a study break...which I HIGHLY doubt.

Sorry to disappoint :-(