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I know I'm supposed to do that song question tag thing...but I'll have to put it off again. Don't really plan on tagging anyone for it anyways.

So my boyfriend came back a couple of days ago...or should I say ex-bf. Decided yesterday to take a two month break...date other people. You know, see if things were really meant to work out.

The Story of the Weekend

Okay, as you know, this past week was my birthday! Nothing much happened on the actually birthday, just went and bought some cake , and juices for my birthday celebration on Friday night. I also went out with some friends to get some Chipotle burritos afterward, and while a friend and I were getting seated, another friend told me that the guy who rang us up asked if I had a boyfriend. I just rolled my eyes and didn't say a word. Then I went to a soccer game...all of this happening after class and lab and whatnot.

So Friday night...this is where the real story is. Anyways, some friend's and I gathered at a friend's apartment eating cake, and having some drinks before we went out. A friend of mine who went to a neighboring school gave us all a ride, since none of us would be in the right mind to...So yeah, we get to the club...and the place is packed...and with some cuties too.

But yeah, it was a great night of dancing. I was surprised at how many guys wanted to dance with me. Like...two years ago, when I would go out with friends, I averaged two guys a night. This Friday...it was at least ten, and even then I would be dancing with one guy...and another guy would grab my arm. I don't do that bent over...hands on the ground kind of dancing or anything of that sorts, so please...don't get the wrong idea lol. But yeah...that happened a couple of times, and trying to accompany friends the bathroom, I would get pulled as well. I guess things have changed in two years (remember I said I didn't really go out last school year)?

But yeah...this one conversation was funny:

Sunglasses in Club Guy: Wow. You are the most beautiful girl that I have seen here. You look different from all the other girls and I've been watching you tonight. I just wanted to talk to you for a bit.
ELNG: Yeah...sure, I bet you say that to all the girls.
SCG: No, really I mean it. I'm not even kidding, you are probably the only one that I will remember tomorrow.
ELNG: Ummm...well you are drunk, so I doubt you will remember me tomorrow.
SCG: You are right, but if I was sober, I would remember you tomorrow.
ELNG: Uhhh...okay.
SCG: You remind me of the girls from back home.
ELNG: Where is home?
SCG: Atlanta
Was that supposed to be a complement?

So then SCG and I dance for a bit...meanwhile he would keep holding onto my dress from the front (he wanted to dance face to face)...and then I guess would keep trying to touch my face? I mean, he would bring his hands up, and I would put my hands up...hard to explain. But yeah...then he asked if he could kiss me, and I said no...he started begging...na wa o, see me see trouble. When he realized I was not going to allow him a kiss, he tried to take it by force. Kept leaning into me...and then I started leaning back...the more I leaned back (his hands were around my waist)...the more he leaned forward. At some point he realized he was not going to get anything and decided to just kiss my forehead. Probably that was the story of my night. But yeah...apart from the usual guys trying to place their hands on places where they don't belong...that was all.

One of my friend's also started getting a little too flirtatious with my friend who gave us a ride. I don't know...I may stop bringing my male friends around her...she wants to flirt with all of them saying that they are all cute. Anyways...I am thinking of setting her up with this guy who has been talking to me lately. I'm not quite sure about this guy...like whether or not he likes me...if he does...I better set them up fast. He's cute, no doubt about it, they are both Ghanaian (not that that is the deciding factor), but I think that they might get along well. So...I'm going to get to work on that.

This male friend of mine thinks that he likes me...actually he and my boyfriend think that every guy likes me. Their idea is "assume every guy likes you unless they prove you wrong." Ladies...do you guys use this kind of thinking? Tell me what you all think. And guys...is this accurate or not?

-ELNG

*P.S. That music tag thing will be coming up in my next post lol.

Coming soon....

After my class today...you will hear the gist.

~ELNG

Boring...

Sorry guys, not much gist for you all because I've been studying for a test which I had today . So I was inside ALL WEEKEND!!!! I know...hard to believe that this party girl didn't go out. Wait...let me not lie, I am not a party girl, so it's typical that I didn't go out lol. But my birthday is this week!!! So expect that to change this weekend.


Actually, I do have a little story to tell. So an ex-boyfriend of mine came down to my city for a party. But get this...this is how I knew....

One of his friends sent me a message, saying that he and some friends were going to be coming down and he wanted people to hang out with. I asked him if I knew any of these friends, and he said no. So I figured that my ex-bf wouldn't be coming, though not to lie...thought it kind of weird that his friend wanted to hang out because I had never seen him, only talked to him on the phone. But I was up for it, don't mind hanging out with people.

So Saturday night comes, his friend calls and I ignore it because I'm studying for a test and I really don't feel like hanging out. My grades are more important lol. So yeah, ignored those calls, but about five calls later, I finally decide to answer it. But mind you that I never stored his number in my phone, so I recognized it by the area code. So I pick up the phone...it was my ex-bf (who I had not seen in 1+ years). He apparently came in the car with his friend who wanted to see me (and his friend just didn't tell me). Probably because he knew that I could have told him to not bother coming. My ex-bf will not leave me alone...calling my phone (after soo long) asking me when I am going to break up with my boyfriend, telling me that he loves me, that he can't get over me, and that he can't be with anyone else, that I only act this way because I know he will always be there for me, that we were meant to get married...and everything under the sun. I am NOT...let me repeat that...NOT NOT NOT NOT will NEVER be interested in going out with him, or taking anything further than it is now.

I don't mind seeing him, but when he wants to see me, he wants to kiss and stuff...and he just understand that I don't want to. I'm like..."I have a boyfriend" and he says that he doesn't care, that he still loves me, that he thinks my boyfriend and I are just a fling and that one day I will come to my senses. He said that he thinks I'm smart enough to realize that one day I will want a Nigerian man so we can raise Nigerian kids...whatever! No matter who I marry, my kids will be Nigerian right (maybe...at least half)?

So yeah, he came by my apartment around 3:00AM in the morning (he had just come from a party...which I am now glad that I did not attend)...I know...bad idea. But I no matter how I feel, I had not seen him in over a year. And he lives two hours away, I don't want to be known as so cold-hearted that I would not see him when he came around. Yeah...he's still the same old same old. Did nothing with him, and for that he calls me mean. Personally, I don't care. I just don't understand how he is so blind to think the way that he does. Anyways...let me not start ranting.

It was my birthday this week! I will post on Saturday to let you all know how it went. By the way...blogger will probably post this by the date when I started...but actually I am posting this Friday morning. Sorry oh...I don't always have internet access for class reasons.

~ELNG

Fourth of July!!!

Happy Fourth of July everyone!!! Well...to those that celebrate it lol. Mine was alright, I'm at school for the summer, so not much that I can actually do. A friend had a picnic yesterday though, so I went over to her apartment to celebrate. I was probably there for about two hours! It was fun, a lot of bugs though.

Then after that, went out to this club...which was soo fun!! I have not been to a club in ages (or any kind of club for that matter)! The deal pretty much is that if my boyfriend doesn't go out, I pretty much don't go out. It's not written or spoken or anything, I just generally feel like I have no point going to a club if he does not come. I find it hard to dance with other guys.

But yeah, so was at the club for probably about two hours, and it was just insane. Maybe my not going out for a while has caused me to forget what to expect. But left and right guys kept asking for my number. Okay...not left and right, so it was like five guys. But I haven't gotten that kind of attention in a while lol. It was like:


The next night (Saturday night...don't mind blogger, I started typing this Saturday morning), I went out to an African club with this friend of mine who kind of likes me. Yeah...I don't know. I have really resigned myself to the fact that I will never have males who really just want to be friends and nothing more. But yeah, the party was fun, it was free drinks and free entry! Got to hear some great African tracks from Naija to Kenya and even some Caribbean stuff!

As for why I say I will never have any males that will be just friends...maybe that's just an exaggeration. I believe that I may get some within the next five-ten years? But as for now...doesn't happen. That story will be saved for another day!

See ya ♥